1. If a child didn’t have bad intentions, they shouldn’t be punished:
Sometimes children aren’t trying to harm anyone, they just want to discover things. And when a child is just trying to learn, they should be supported even if their actions led to something bad. Sympathize with the child & tell them how to fix the situation.
2. Suggestions & orders are different things:
There is a huge difference between saying “Maybe, you shouldn’t play games?” & “Don’t play games.” The first is a suggestion, & the latter is an order. You should only punish your children if you’ve ordered your children to do or not to do something.
If a child is emotionally strong & stable & they get punished for going against a suggestion, it will be okay for them. But if they are sensitive, it can hurt them. When a sensitive child grows up, this could make them want to follow the orders of all people they respect because they are scared of the consequences.
3. Punishment should not be emotional:
This happens very often with every parents. If a child doesn’t want to obey, some parents get really angry & they can’t control it even though they love their children. It is often caused by huge expectations for children. And when these expectations meet reality, parents become unsatisfied.
Psychologists say that they may be dependent on people who have a high social status.
4. Public punishment is unacceptable:
This is the most important point. Public punishment makes children embarrassed & angry. Psychologists don’t recommend using words like “what will other people say?” The same thing happens when children are rewarded in public, they may become too arrogant.
A child who is often punished in public always feels humiliated & expects the situation to repeat. In their adult life, they can turn into a person that totally relies on the opinion of the majority & they won’t be able to make their own decisions.
5. If you threatened to punish, you should punish:
Let me explain this to you friends, if an adult promised to punish a child, they should do it. A threat that you only promised, according to child psychologists, is worse than no punishment at all. Children quickly realize that parents just say words & they stop trusting them. They can’t understand the difference between good & bad because they don’t have a regulation system.